(Excuse the random photo lol)
Hey guys! Long time no post!
I know I’ve been M.I.A. lately, but it is all for good reason and things are finally starting to slow down a little!
So, for those of you who do not know, this is my senior year in college (at the University of Cincinnati) and as I am sure you might imagine, it is a pretty busy time for me! There are papers, finals, capstones, etc.! This past Friday was the last day of classes and naturally that included that last day of homework assignments, papers and tests as well! I still do have one final paper to do and I’m trying not to procrastinate but that’s proving to be easier said than done.
But anyways, with no more classes, I’ll have so much more free time! Having that extra time will give me the opportunity to do the things that I enjoy, like blogging! Christmas break is around the corner, and I could not be more excited! I plan on using my break to do what I want. There are so many craft projects that I have been wanting to do but have been unable to do so because of school, but that’s all about to change. I only have one more semester left, and in that semester I will be taking three classes (Brains On Drugs, Positive Psychology and Intermediate American Sign Language II), one internship with an online magazine and one more capstone (Stress, Mood & Health) and then I graduate in April!
I am just going to use this break as an opportunity to really relax; I want to catch up on reading my Essence magazines, catch up on some of my favorite shows and spend some QT with my husband. This is definitely something that I am looking forward too. I’m also looking forward to finishing my last semester ever! — at least for undergraduate. I will be going to graduate school and I am so thankful that graduate school only takes half the time that undergraduate takes. I think I want to apply to UC’s School of Social Work. I know for sure that I don’t want to study Psychology again, at least not right now.
But anyways, I just wanted to write something because it’s almost been a month since I last posted and I want to make sure that I keep some consistency going. So, I have to get back to work, but I’ll be back soon!
Talk to you guys later!
Ever wonder why people do the things they do, like lie, cheat or steal?
Ever wonder about life in general?
I know for me, I often wonder about the future. Who would I marry? What will my career be? What will my children be like?
Sometimes I wonder about more serious issues. How people can be so quick to judge something or someone that they know so little about? Why does it seems as though good things happen to not-so-good people? Do good and evil really have to coexist?
Why is it thought that in society that a woman cannot do all that a man can and more? Who said that wouldn’t couldn’t handle both home and business? And why do some men get intimidated when a woman is left with no choice but to take care of said home and business?
And sometimes I wonder about silly stuff.
Why are some babies cute than others? Why do some look like actual babies and some tip more towards the elderly-looking side of the scale? And while we’re on the subject, where does that milk smell that babies have come from?
Why are some people habitual liars? Why do some people feel comfortable conning others? How is it that there are those who can kill in cold blood?
Where did double standards come from? Who invented them? Why do people abide by them like they are actually valid?
Can men and women really just be friends? Without any romantic or sexual implications? Who said this was impossible?
How come black people are the only ones who seem to act like “light skin” and “dark skin” are two separate races? Does no one notice that to most of the other races, we’re all just black? Why must we continue to hold ourselves back?
Why can’t we all just get along? Why so serious? Do you know the muffin man?
Is the moon really made of cheese? How much would could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? And if that woodchuck can chuck as much wood as a woodchuck can chuck, does he get a tummy-ache?
Why does true happiness seem so fleeting? And for those who claim that they have it, what is their secret to maintaining it? Why do we constantly sweat the small stuff?
Why isn’t school out yet? Can winter break come any faster? How long before graduation?
Just a few of the things that my mind wonders about…
“Anger dwells in the bosom of fools.” – Albert Einstein
Now everyone gets angry, it happens to us all. And there are a lot of times where most of us do stupid things in our anger or while we are angry. But that’s a mistake, and if you’re spiritual, it’s also a sin. Don’t believe me?
25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
There’s your proof.
So what exactly is anger? Is it that feeling of rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway? Is it that feeling of annoyance you feel when your loved one has ate the last of that sandwich in the fridge that you were saving for when you got home? Is it that feeling of readiness and anticipation for someone to make a sideways comment so that you can quickly and assertively put them in their place?
Anger is all of that and more. Everyone knows that a lot of the time when we are angry, we say and do things that we don’t really mean. Then after the situation has cooled down, we have to go back and right our wrong and while there is absolutely nothing wrong with fixing something we’ve done damage to, wouldn’t it be great it just be great to not have something to go back and fix in the first place? Well that happens by keeping our cool. I know that’s way easier said than done, but we have to realize within ourselves that sometimes getting angry is the stupidest thing that we can do in a situation.
When we act in anger, we allows ourselves to become something we end up ashamed of. What’s one of the first things people say after they’ve messed up — after they’ve said “I’m sorry” of course? “I don’t know what came over me” or “It was a mistake, I never meant for that to happened.” After we have messed up, there is that feeling of guilt. That feeling of embarrassment that makes us hope to God that we never make the same mistake again.
But you’re supposed to let your anger out, right? I mean, you can’t just let it fester inside of you; then at the wrong moment you end up giving birth to your anger and the next thing you know you are yelling at someone who didn’t even deserve it. The answer is yes, you are supposed to release your anger, but it has to be done in such a way that doesn’t offend others and will prevent you from having to apologize for taking out your problems on an innocent soul.
So how do you release your anger in a constructive manner? The Bible has the answer for that, too.
New International Version (NIV)
15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.
Now that does not mean that you approach them while yelling and seemingly ready to fight. It means that you approach them maturely, calmly expressing your feelings AND being able to listen to their feelings about the situation as well. It’s all about maturity. The key to any successful conversation starts with letting go of the need to be right and being open to the viewpoints and feelings of others. You can’t expect any problem to be solved correctly if you have no idea what you want the end result to be. YOu have have to consider the big picture. You especially can’t expect the problem to be solved if you do not have the right attitude. Solving the problem means that everybody is happy and feel good, not just one person. In the words of Lauryn Hill — “how you gon’ win when you ain’t right within?” Unh unh, come again.
Being busy sucks. At least when it comes to being busy with things I’d rather not be doing. Like school. I mean I obviously know that school is important, but sometimes I just wish I had more time. Make the world spin a little slower. But seeing as that’s impossible, I often have to sacrifice things I love and enjoy. Like a social life. Or just watching TV. And yes of course, even blogging.
But there are those random, fleeting moments (like this one) where I am afforded the blessed opportunity to blog. (Okay, so you caught me. This is actually NOT one of those random, fleeting moments — I’m actually sitting in my Psychobiology class learning about the chromosomes, hermaphrodites and the sex organs. It’s actually really interesting stuff. But I digress.) And I always take advantage of those moments. All this being busy has me thinking though. If I’m just in my senior year and I’m this busy, just imagine how much busier I will be when I enter the professional world! To me, that is just all the more reason to include my love and passion for writing into my career.
I just wish there were more hours in the day. Like seriously. I’m always in class, or doing homework, studying or at work. I don’t even know what a social life is anymore, let alone have time for one. I barely see friends anymore and my I can’t even tell you the last time my husband went out on a date. And he’s been busy lately also. He has his full-time job and school. I would love for us to go out to a nice restaurant, sit down, eat a delicious meal and not worry about work or school.
But in all honesty, I’d rather be busy all the time doing something productive than just sitting at home wasting my life away and wishing I had something to do. So I’ll count my blessings where I can and I’ll remember that this is all for a reason. I have a future to think of and so does my husband. So we’re working toward it as best as we can, so that we can produce some sort of stability for our future children and I am just fine with that.